Are you there, debt relief? It’s me, Jordan.

I vividly remember sitting in a class senior year of high school and a woman came to talk to us about college and student loans. She was so nonchalant about taking on debt, comparing it to how no one scoffs at taking out a home loan. This was laughably before the housing market crash, but these are statements I will never get out of my ears.

I barely knew what I wanted to be when I grew up, still full of raging teenage hormones, but was somehow “responsible” enough to sign for six figures worth of student loan debt. This toxic industry was only reinforced by my parents outdated notion that since they paid their way through school, I should be able to as well. To clarify, I don’t think paying your own way through college is wrong or you should expect your parents to foot the bill, but my circumstances and my parents were incredibly different. Their statements only reinforced taking out loans in my mind. My college, which was also my parents’ alma mater, was only a few thousand a semester during their college years. When I was accepted it was a steep $40K a year and I received very limited financial assistance.

While no one was forcing me to sign on the dotted line, media had fed me idealistic images of beautiful college campuses and that this was the path you took if you were smart. I know this story is far from unique. I luckily had a great experience that I think of fondly and built a great network that got me a job right out of school.

When I graduated, I was overwhelmed by the debt. I was only making about $32K a year, and every step forward I took with raises I couldn’t help but have lifestyle creep. There are days I often reminisce about how I made my life work with considerably less. I became so desensitized to seeing a high number on my outstanding loan amount on my bank statement that I developed an unhealthy relationship with money.

A few years ago, I got a job that didn’t have corporate cards. It was the first time I took out a credit card. In my mind, I knew that I needed to only put work expenses on that card, but easier said than done. Because of my massive amount of debt, I had very little saved up for emergencies. Someone broke into my car and I needed my window fixed, that blue piece of plastic got swiped. I unexpectedly got the flu and had to go to urgent care, it got swiped. I was exhausted and was self soothing by shopping…well you see where this is going. I racked up a few more thousand dollars that I still chip away at.

There are days I still feel like a failure with money. I think about all the things I could have if I hadn’t taken out that credit card, or if I hadn’t gone to college. My mind swirls with the freedom my husband and I could experience if this debt didn’t exist. Now, I’m really working on being better with money, having a budget and cut back on frivolous spending.

We’re lucky that there are more people, especially women, talking about money (I personally love listening to Gaby Dunn or watching Aja Dang). When I feel really down on myself about money, I try to remind myself I’m not alone and so many of us were sold this bad deal. I know there will be an end eventually if I can just stay on track. In the meantime I will be working 60 hour weeks, freelancing and selling my clothes at Buffalo Exchange.

Are you there, debt relief? It’s me, Jordan.

Dainty, Dainty, Dainty

I really want to set the tone of this post and the title is said to the tune of sexy, sexy, sexy from ODB’s Baby I got your money.

Now that’s out of the way we can really focus on the actual point of this post: dainty jewelry. In the past few years I’ve really moved from large statement pieces (although I’m not above them in the right situation) to smaller, minimal jewelry.

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Below are some of the pieces I’m currently craving. My go-to shops are Catbird, Etsy and Moulton. Have you gotten any good pieces lately?

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Dainty, Dainty, Dainty

Bed crushing

So lately I’ve been really wanting to update our bed. Casey and I have had the same bedroom set for a few years (since we started living together).

I really love this entire platform bed trend – but we’re at a point where we would have to update a lot of things for it to not look too disjointed.

Is there anything in your home you’ve been craving to update?

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Bed crushing

Buy or DIY: Wall Hangings

Has anyone else been enamored with woven and tassel wall hangings? (No, just me? whatever).

Like seriously my Pinterest is flooded with them. At Texas Style Council Camp last year we had this as a DIY activity. Let’s talk about time consuming. Granted, most things in life worth doing are. I still want to try my hand at making my own, but luckily there are quite a few on Etsy and I’ve bought one from the Dallas Flea before.

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So whatcha think? Are you into the trend? Would you buy or diy?

Buy or DIY: Wall Hangings

Blanket Weather

So (at least in Texas) we’re in weather where it could be warmish during the day, but chilly at night. Which means, having several stylish blankets around is ideal. They’re great for Netflix marathons and for the patio with your gal pals.

I got an amazing blanket when in Costa Rica and it got me searching for some more to keep the house stocked. I’m borderline obsessed with that white blanket from The Citizenry. What do you look for in a blanket?

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Blanket Weather

Etsy Faves

I’m gonna keep this short and sweet. I flipping love Etsy. I love finding unique things and its perfect for gifts, home goods, etc.

I could probably write on and on and on about my prolific love, but I’d rather just show you what I’m currently crushing on (despite my wallet’s disapproval).

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I’ll admit, finding good stuff can take time and years of building up your favorites so Etsy knows what to reco for you. It’s worth it. I find such unique stuff and sometimes for a WAY better price.

What are your Etsy faves? Any tips on finding great shops?

Etsy Faves

Make work less suck

I’m gonna be real. This is the first time I’ve been really happy in my job. Granted, every job has push and pull of good and bad. My first job out of college I loved because it was a small all-female office and we all got along really well. Like, so well that I still hang out with a lot of them and they went from work friend to real friend. Yet, we had little freedom, were constantly monitored and were paid really poorly. My next job was another all-female, small office. It was actually all the bad things of the first, but no one talked to each other. It was soul-crushing as an extrovert to be alone at my desk all day, the only silver lining being how much a I loved my client. After a year of breaking my back, I was told I didn’t do enough and moved on.

My first year at my current office was hard. Really hard. I gave it time, made friends, and I really feel good. (I hate saying comfortable because somehow that feels lazy). I’ve discovered ways to make work suck a little less…because little things can make a difference.

Make your desk somewhere you want to be

Might seem really obvious, but you spend a lot of time here. Invest in some artwork, plants, mugs, magazines, whatever that makes it feel more like home. I also highly recommend a lamp (especially if you work near creatives, I’ve noticed they tend to keep lights very dim).

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Take a walk

Sometimes all you can do is get the F out of dodge. Get away from your desk, grab some fresh air or maybe even a coffee. This has saved me on numerous occasions. Whenever I feel the tears or anger welling up, I let my feet hit the pavement and plug in some headphones. It’s a great reminder that your life is more than just your job. It also allows you to have your “moment” of whatever you are feeling so nothing gets suppressed and its easier to move on.

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Make friends

This might seem like the worst advice, and I suppose dependent on your field this might be bad advice, but really try to make some office buddies. I stress that you should still be really discerning with what you share with your coworkers. I’ve had a lot of “work friends” blossom into friends outside of the office. Plus, it makes the day way better when you have someone who will tell you if your outfit looks cute or to grab lunch with you on a  meh day.

What do you do take make sure the old 9-to-5 is empowering versus soul crushing?

 

Make work less suck

My own little corner

Spring is that season where we all go on Pinterest and watch HGTV and think: “Yes I CAN!”

I’m sure I’ll come crashing down from this high in a month, but until then I’m really loving these tribal, boho home trends. (Again, can I just pick up and move to Marfa?). Now sneaking this stuff into the apartment without Casey noticing is a completely different story (commence covert operations).

Two cute beds? Yes please. I call an instant sleepover.

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Look at me writing my memoir in this nook. (Use your imaginations people, I mean c’mon!)

Boho home 2

 

If your home is going to have southwest vibes a hat rack is a must (DIY is just a plus) for your wide brimmed hats.

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If all else fails, just surround yourself with cacti. There was a time when almost every week I came home with a new succulent. Just remember less is more…even if your latte induced mind says otherwise.

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My own little corner

Housewarming Gift Ideas

Few things are more exciting than moving into a new space! It can definitely be stressful (When Casey and I moved into the loft our air conditioner stopped working and we ran around town getting things we didn’t think we would need – like a new shower curtain rod). It’s always nice when you finally settle and can invite friends over to see your new space.

In honor of one of my best friends moving into a new space last weekend, I’ve rounded up a few of my favorite housewarming gifts.

striped candlesI love these striped candles – they are an easy way to add some pops of color to a new home! Find them here.

blue vases

I’ll admit that I’m a vase fiend. I want EVERY one I see. These are super cute and you can find them here.

fruit slicer

How practical (and hysterical) is this fruit/veggie slicer? This is great if your friend loves salads/baking. You can find it here.

Joseph Joseph bowlsAnd if you want something that is actually practical, I love this nesting bowl/measuring cup set. Find it here.

Housewarming Gift Ideas

Holiday To-Do List

The holidays always seem to fly by! If it were up to me, I would cram every last thing I could think of into EVERY day of the holiday season. Let’s squeeze every bit of holly jolly out of December!

Since most people agree that’s not sane (my husband included), I’ve made a list of the top things I want to do this year during Christmas. Granted, I’ll probably do way more than this, but this list is a good jumping off point. Also, since it’s so reasonable, I won’t be disappointed if I don’t get anything other than this list done.

christmas fun list

What are the things you are looking forward to this Christmas? I highly encourage you to make a list of things you want to do this holiday season rather than things you want to get. 

Holiday To-Do List